As a 24-year-old woman trying to find my way in the world, all I could say is I wish I had known what was coming. Four years into it and looking back there are a number of things I wish I had known before entering my 20s. There is a mixed opinion however that the innocence of childhood and the relevance of magic and whimsical existence in the early ages is unarguably important. Although we all come from different walks of life our experiences intersect. We feel the same range of emotions with variances in degree. Essentially, walking through a similar human experience. The encounters I have had through my 20s might be subjective. However, through conversations with friends and peers in my circle I have realized they are largely similar.
The early 20s is characterized by a high degree of uncertainty, a cluelessness
almost of your place or role in the world, and you become extremely aware of time and its swift passage. I can sum up my early 20s, as a period of unanswered
questions. There might be several ways that one could get access to these answers, such as through mentors, personal experience, lectures ( if you are a psychology student ), and other ways. However, these may not be accessible to everyone. So here are 3 books I think you should most definitely read in your 20s.
Emotional Education by The school of Life
Books are a window to understanding oneself and the world. What better way is there to understand oneself than to work at increasing one's emotional intelligence. Understanding the reasons and retracing the causes for the emotions we experience is key. Not only does it help increase our self-awareness but it also helps us in understanding other people better.
“Those who wounded us were not superior, impressive beings who knew our special weaknesses and justly targeted them. They were themselves highly frantic, damaged creatures trying their best to cope with the litany of private sorrows to which every life condemns us.”
What Happened to you? by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah
Winfrey
Need I say more Oprah Co-authored the book. But in Summary, We experience our present through the lens of the past. To wipe the dirt off our windshield and see clearly the road that is our life, we need to understand how our past experiences have shaped who are and how we interpret our external environments. This book has helped me identify patterns and be more careful in interpreting certain external stimuli.
“So many phenomena of everyday life are directly linked to this process of the brain making sense of the world by creating associations and making memories. This is why asking “What happened to you?” is so important in understanding what’s going on with you now.”
The Defining Decade by Meg Jay
Finding a mentor for your career, I believe is much easier than finding one that can help you get a sense of how you must lead your life. Some lessons in life can only be better understood in retrospect. That is why books like this can be handy when you're experiencing something for the first time. I have loved this book for the reasons that it has given me a hit on what pitfalls to avoid, what things to focus on, and lessons to take from people who were once in their 20s.
Our twenties can be like living beyond time. When we graduate from school, we leave behind the only lives we have ever known, ones that have been neatly packaged in semester-sized chunks with goals nestled within. Suddenly, life opens up and the syllabi are gone. There are days and weeks and months and years, but no clear way to know when or why anyone thing should happen. It can be a disorienting, cave-like existence. As one twentysomething astutely put it, "The twentysomething years are a whole new way of thinking about time. There's this big chunk of time and a whole bunch of stuff that needs to happen somehow.
Books you most definitely
should read in your 20s • Issue 07
By Beamlak melesse (Encounter human)
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